denial

n. A primitive defense mechanism where the individual wards off unwanted emotions and experiences by not noticing or remembering experiences which are quite salient to others. In psychoanalytic terms this defense mechanism is an unconscious maneuver to avoid conflict. For example, Jane has had a difficult childhood filled with physical abuse and neglect. As an adult she is very attracted to Steve and feels "protected" by his rough exterior. Though she is around him when his behavior is controlling, hostile, and rude to others, she unconsciously does not allow herself to experience or remember these aspects of his behavior because of the unconscious conflict it stirs up in her. Though her friends may point out these experiences that they clearly observe and remember, because of her use of denial, Jane will be unable to remember or see what they are describing.

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